I am what you would call your typical mom. I have typical worries and typical dreams. I want the best for my kid and hope that he grows up to find happiness and love. I look at him and have the typical questions of a mom of a 2 year old. You know the ones. Isn’t he the most beautiful thing on the planet? Am I being a good mom and raising him right?. How long can I put off the potty training stuff because I really just don’t know if I’m cut out for that kind of torture? You know, typical.
I think ahead to the stages at which he has more understanding of the world and what I need to teach him at those points in time. Soon it will be about not talking to strangers, only trusted adults, and memorizing our address and phone number in case he is lost. Before long it will be bathing himself and doing minor household chores to gain more responsibility. Then we’ll get into adolescence and all that it entails.
Lately, however, the headlines have made me think of an aspect of parenting I never in a million years would think I’d need to consider. It is becoming scarily apparent by the rise in teen murderers in our country that I need to consider how to actively teach my child why he shouldn’t kill anyone.
At first glance, that is a no brainer lesson, right? I mean, we teach our children morals and ethics and in some circumstances religion so the lesson of not killing rolls right into that. Doesn’t it? We can teach our children that murder is wrong, but aren’t we usually thinking and talking about when other people do it? I can’t look at my child and think that he could be capable of taking someone’s life and instinctively talk to him about why HE shouldn’t. However, I am seriously considering how to do that because of so many teenagers murdering people these days.
- The two teenage boys in New Jersey who murdered 12 year old Autumn Pasquale
- The teenage boy in Colorado who murdered 10 year old Jessica Ridgeway
- The teenage boy in Texas who killed his mother and teenage sister
- The teenage girl in Georgia who murdered her 2 year old sister
The list goes on and on. Babies are killing babies. I can’t imagine ANY of these parents ever considered that their children could be capable of such a thing. It breaks my heart to think of the families of both the victims and the killers. Sometimes they are one and the same family, which must be doubly devastating.
Every time I read a story about a teenage murderer, it forces me to think that this is one more lesson to add to the multitude of things I never thought I’d have to actively think about teaching my child. However, this is the world I am living in right now so I will do my very best as a parent and hope that by the time my son has babies, he is living in a world where he doesn’t have to think so long and hard about how to teach his kids such a solemn, direct lesson. One can only hope.