Another New Year has reared it’s beautiful, hopeful, and champagne-soaked head. Many people are dutifully starting their resolutions. Others are recovering from last night’s revelry and are saying “I’ll start tomorrow.” Still others are moving on with their 2014 without resolution or promise, just the thought that it is a new year with new possibilities and what will be, will be. Usually I’m in that last category. I don’t often make firm New Year’s resolutions. However, this year, I’m getting on the bandwagon. Hardcore.
Why now? Why this New Year? Well, I’ve been through a lot. 2012 was a very difficult year, it was my year of loss. A lot of loss. 2013 then became a year of recovery and gain. I picked myself up by my boot straps, had a beautiful baby, moved clear across the country, started a new job, and settled into life as a working mom of 2. In 2013, I became the Phoenix reborn from the ashes that 2012 had made of me.
There is still a lot of work to be done, however. I’m on my feet, but I really haven’t spread my wings to fly. I’m a modern girl, I theoretically want it all. I’m also a sensible girl and know that you can’t have it all at once, but I’ll sure as hell try.
So, I am making resolutions. Resolutions are defined as courses of action determined or decided on. This is perfect for the changes I want to make. They are courses of action, they are shifts in my life, they are not solitary items that I will check off a list when complete. They will not be complete, they will just be. I will not commit to things I don’t actually want to do, which will allow me to be gentle on myself while reaching my goals. Why resolve to go to the gym every day if I hate going to the gym ANY day? I believe resolutions are meant to craft the life you want to be living by carving out the things that don’t make you happy and bringing to light those things that do.
So here they are:
- Clean up my eating. This has been brewing for months but I didn’t want to go too crazy with cleanses or anything until I was done nursing the bean. Also, who wants to skip cookies over the holidays? Not me. But, I have been feeling extremely sluggish and having some tummy aches due to my poor choice of foods so I’m really looking forward to this one. I got a juicer for Christmas and plan to put it to use during an 8 day cleanse. Juicing and eating fresh fruits and veggies. Some would consider this extreme or a form of punishment but I really enjoy this type of eating and really want to flush the toxins from my system that have been making me feel so crappy. Post cleanse, will focus on a whole foods, more plant based diet but I’m not going strictly vegan or anything, that’s just no fun. Plus, I need my sushi.
- Return to the yoga mat. I have not had a steady yoga practice since, and I’m ashamed to admit this, I was pregnant with the Boo. So, we’re going on 4 years now and my body is ACHING for me to do something with it. I bought a Groupon for classes in downtown Seattle at a studio that has a back lit Himalayan rock salt wall. Super cool. I’m really excited about that. I could resolve to do yoga in the morning 5 days per week, but I would be setting myself up for failure and I’m not all about that. So, I will return to the mat as often as it makes me feel strong, healthy, and happy.
- Foster closer relationships with loved ones. Moving so far away from friends and family and being 3 hours behind has been really difficult in terms of keeping in touch. I miss my loved ones and hate not knowing what is going on in their lives. It will be tough but we’ll figure out a way.
- Develop new relationships and connect with Seattle. This is a two-parter but I’m lumping it into one. I focused so much on getting everyone settled into daily life of day care, work, etc when we moved here and now it is time to really branch out and connect with the area. The yoga Groupon is actually a part of that – the studio is not far from Pike Place Market and my goal is to hit up the market for fresh produce (see #1!) after class. Spending time downtown not as a tourist but as a resident is something I’m looking forward to. Also, since our loved ones are so far away, it is time to focus on developing more relationships here. We spent Christmas with another family and that was so lovely. I want to keep that momentum going and create a circle of loved ones so further connect us to our life out here.
- Tune out judgment. I’ve been very guilty of judging other people. Other people have been very guilty of judging me. It is a very common human reaction to judge. Many people snap to judgment when something is different or when something in their own life is not working the way they want it to. My goal is to remember this when I hear judgment, both in my own head and from others mouths. Remember that it comes from a place of unhappiness, remember to be kind to the person judging (be it me or another person), and tune out the judgment. This might require me to stop watching The Real Housewives, but we’ll see. Not tearing myself away from Bravo just yet.
- Disconnect to reconnect. I’m sure a lot of other people are making the same resolution. Seems that in 2013 my family became uber-connected and not a moment goes by when someone doesn’t have a device in their hand. I’m super guilty of this. So, I want to get everyone to put down their phones, tablets, etc, turn off the TV, and go play together. In Seattle. See, the resolutions all connect.
I have more resolutions swimming around my head and a lot of them are very personal, so I’ll just leave the list at this. I’m very excited for what 2014 has in store. I mean, come on, yoga in front of a back lit Himalayan rock salt wall followed by fresh veg at a world famous market? These resolutions are just killing me…